John had seen Jesus being put on the Cross. Then he went to get Mary and the other women. Mary and John went to stand close to Jesus.
"Now there stood by the cross of Jesus, his mother (Mary) and His mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved(John) standing by, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold your son!” Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home (John 19:25-27).
When Jesus saw them, his heart went out to them in love. Normally anyone being tortured would turn in on themselves but Jesus' love transcended his pain. In his pain he wasn't selfish and self-pitying but reached out to meet their needs. He was concerned that his precious mother would be cared for. She had given birth to him and cared for him and now he was leaving he wanted to make the best possible arrangements for her.
This saying reveals his LOVE for his family. Even under the pressure of being the Saviour of the world, he still had time for his family and their needs and hurts. Even in bearing the world's sin he had time to care for Mary, showing us that loving and providing for our family is important to God. Never get so spiritual that you stop caring for your family. Jesus gave us an example to never stop honouring our parents. He calls her woman (a term of respect) rather than Mother perhaps to discourage the later idolatry of Mary as 'Mother of God' (Mariology)
Mary had been told in prophecy at the birth of Christ that: A sword will pierce your heart (Luke 2:34,35). This indicated his early death and her suffering. At the cross, Mary was silently and bravely suffering with abroken-heart (Joseph had also died).
But Jesus knows our hurts and broken heart and provides healing. Mary was in danger of being forgotten as the gospel went forth, having done her bit. How terrible after sacrificing and giving much to be tossed aside when no longer needed. How often do children do this to parents or husbands to wives etc. Would Jesus leave Mary alone and unprovided for? No! He, knew what Mary suffered and provided what she needed to restore her life and give her a place of honour and protection. Jesus brought John (his best man) to Mary, to take care of her. He chose the disciple who was most like himself to take his place as Mary's son, for he knew John would care for and love Mary as his own mother. That Mary's well-being was of great importance to Jesus is shown in his choice of John. He provided Mary with a relationship that would comfort her in her loss and loneliness, aiding the healing and restoration of her soul.
By saying John, behold your mother Jesus was asking John to care for Mary as his own mother.
By saying: Mary, behold your son he was providing Mary with a relationship that would comfort her in her loss.
The Third SALVATION Blessing - HEALING OF THE HEART and SPIRITUAL FAMILY.
Jesus spoke these words from the cross to show that from the cross flows
healing for the broken heart, restoration and creation of good relationships (Divine connections) meeting the human need for friendship and family, the antidote for loneliness. Jesus brought 2 people together who had gathered around the Cross showing that from the cross flows peace, bringing together God's people as FAMILY.
If we draw close to the Cross, like Mary, He will bring us into close family relations with other believers. He will bring us together with others who are likeminded (who draw close to the cross) so that we can serve the Lord together-this applies especially to our marriage partners. John and Mary were not related, but in God's family they became mother and son. The spiritual family is even greater than the natural family.
By this Saying, Jesus revealed God's provision for a lonely and broken heart. He knew what Mary was going through - her pain and grief and made provision. What Jesus did for Mary he wants to do for all. He understands. He is sensitive to our needs. He knows our hurts and pains. He knows what you are going through and wants to care and provide for you also.